TWELVE (12) KEYS TO SUSTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE

At exactly 10:48 pm on Saturday 10^th May, 2014 when I had said my prayers and was ready to sleep, my mobile phone rang. When I picked up the phone and pressed the answering key to answer, I heard a deep HELLO and before I responded hello, out of the deep voice came “MY FRIEND, I’VE BEEN MARRIED FOR JUST FOUR (4) YEARS BUT FOR A YEAR NOW I AND MY SO CALLED WIFE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING. HOW CAN YOU HELP ME? MANY OF MY FRIENDS SAY WE ARE NOT MEANT TO BE. MY FRIEND, SHOULD I LEAVE HER?

I was so shocked by the approach of the man and before I could say a word, I heard a shout of his name at the background and he said “THAT IS MY WIFE OOO, LET ME ATTEND TO HER BEFORE WE FIGHT AGAIN THIS NIGHT. I KNOW YOU WILL NOT TELL ME TO LEAVE HER BUT TELL ME SOMETHING TO HELP ME SUSTAIN MY MARRIAGE, I WILL CALL YOU LATER.

True to his word, he called after two days and the rest is history. I never heard from him again but I believe he is happy now and I want to give you a skeleton of what I shared with my unknown friend.

To sustain or maintain a healthy marriage,

1. DON’T QUICKLY FIND FAULT WITH YOUR SPOUSE OR PARTNER
2. DON’T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF SEEKING OR MALTREATING HIM OR HER TO LEAVE.
3. LEARN TO RESOLVE YOUR CONFLICTS YOURSELVES AND AMICABLY
4. LEARN TO ACCEPT YOUR SPOUSE’S STRENGTH AND WEAKNESS
5. NEVER PLAN A PROGRAM THAT WILL MAKE YOU IGNORE YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE.
6. DON’T SET RIGID RULES FOR YOURSELVES, FOR RIGID RULES WILL DISTURB THE JOY IN THE MARRIAGE.
7. MAKE YOUR SPOUSE YOUR BEST FRIEND, GO TO PLACES WITH HIM OR HER
8. PRAISE YOUR SPOUSE WHEN HE OR SHE DOES SOMETHING WORTHY OF PRAISE.
9. BE MORE FREE WITH YOUR SPOUSE THAN WITH ANY OTHER MAN OR WOMAN.
10. NEVER SPEAK ILL OF YOUR SPOUSE TO YOUR FAMILY
11. DO EVERYTHING TO SATISFY YOUR SPOUSE
12. NEVER FORGET THAT GOD HATES DIVORCE (Malachi 2:16)

 

 

THE POWER OF CONNECTION

By far the best way to change your mindset is to connect with other great minds. The saying “show me your friend and I will show you your character” is right on the spot! The company you keep says a lot about who you are and how you think and behave.

The people you connect to can make and unmake your future. To make it in life, connect yourself to individuals who fear God and are trying their very best to make it through good means.

Do not associate with the complainers who sit at one place and blame the government all their lives. Fight for yourself, fight for what you believe in and go after it.

Who do you call your friend? Who is your business partner? Is he helping you to grow your business or is talking you into collapsing your own business? BE VIGILANT MY FRIEND and stay away from any form of negativity. This includes “good” friends that are a danger to your thinking. You don’t have to read everything in the paper about murder, death and suffering.

Don’t join the disappointment party about how “the economy is hard and you are just barely managing.”

Stay positive in all circumstances.