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Friday, 23 May 2014

TWELVE (12) KEYS TO SUSTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE



At exactly 10:48 pm on Saturday 10th May, 2014 when I had said my prayers and was ready to sleep, my mobile phone rang. When I picked up the phone and pressed the answering key to answer, I heard a deep HELLO and before I responded hello, out of the deep voice came “MY FRIEND, I’VE BEEN MARRIED FOR JUST FOUR (4) YEARS BUT FOR A YEAR NOW I AND MY SO CALLED WIFE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING. HOW CAN YOU HELP ME? MANY OF MY FRIENDS SAY WE ARE NOT MEANT TO BE. MY FRIEND, SHOULD I LEAVE HER?

I was so shocked by the approach of the man and before I could say a word, I heard a shout of his name at the background and he said “THAT IS MY WIFE OOO, LET ME ATTEND TO HER BEFORE WE FIGHT AGAIN THIS NIGHT. I KNOW YOU WILL NOT TELL ME TO LEAVE HER BUT TELL ME SOMETHING TO HELP ME SUSTAIN MY MARRIAGE, I WILL CALL YOU LATER.

True to his word, he called after two days and the rest is history. I never heard from him again but I believe he is happy now and I want to give you a skeleton of what I shared with my unknown friend.


To sustain or maintain a healthy marriage,

  1. DON’T QUICKLY FIND FAULT WITH YOUR SPOUSE OR PARTNER
  2. DON’T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF SEEKING OR MALTREATING HIM OR HER TO LEAVE.
  3. LEARN TO RESOLVE YOUR CONFLICTS YOURSELVES AND AMICABLY
  4. LEARN TO ACCEPT YOUR SPOUSE’S STRENGTH AND WEAKNESS
  5. NEVER PLAN A PROGRAM THAT WILL MAKE YOU IGNORE YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE.
  6. DON’T SET RIGID RULES FOR YOURSELVES, FOR RIGID RULES WILL DISTURB THE JOY IN THE MARRIAGE.
  7. MAKE YOUR SPOUSE YOUR BEST FRIEND, GO TO PLACES WITH HIM OR HER
  8. PRAISE YOUR SPOUSE WHEN HE OR SHE DOES SOMETHING WORTHY OF PRAISE.
  9. BE MORE FREE WITH YOUR SPOUSE THAN WITH ANY OTHER MAN OR WOMAN.
  10. NEVER SPEAK ILL OF YOUR SPOUSE TO YOUR FAMILY
  11. DO EVERYTHING TO SATISFY YOUR SPOUSE
  12. NEVER FORGET THAT GOD HATES DIVORCE (Malachi 2:16)